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angryIt happens to most of us mums, we feel guilty about it, wonder what to do about it and promise to do better next time. Yeah…your kid can make you lose it!, the yelling, the screaming , the acting up in the middle of the supermarket. You know those episodes…
I stumbled onto this article on http://www.whattoexpect.com , may this tips be of help to you as they have helped me! … Feel free to share your own tips.
The article says……..
• Know your limits. It’s often not just your toddler’s whining that pushes you over the edge. It’s the “other stuff” you have going on that makes you lose your cool — deadlines at work, errands to run, an argument with a friend. Something has to give, and sometimes it’s your temper. When you’re really feeling stressed — and we all know that feeling — avoid additional triggers. Skip the errands and head to the park instead.
• Pick your battles. You need to set limits to keep your toddler safe and to help her learn how to control herself and her behavior. But you don’t need to say no to everything. Decide which rules are important to you and stick to them, and let the rest go (who cares if she insists on the red cup for every meal, or wants to pair stripes with plaids?). This decreases frustration on your child’s part and yours — and keeps minor arguments from becoming major battles.
• Give yourself a time-out. If you feel like you’re about to start losing your temper, take a deep breath and count to ten. Center yourself with a sip of tea or a gulp of sparkling water (even if you have to drink it in a go-cup while chasing your toddler around the backyard). Or step into another room (as long as your child is safe) and take a moment to close your eyes or quietly gaze out the window. It’s amazing how much more “in the zone” you’ll feel in a few short minutes.
• Try distraction. If a battle of wills is about to begin, shift gears and try to tickle your child’s funny bone before you both lose your cool. Sometimes a little kids’ joke, funny face, or favorite song can work wonders with a child — and parent — who are about to explode.
• Find an outlet. A parent, a friend, your very understanding sister. Tap a supportive soul who’s a good listener and make that person your sounding board. When your child’s napping or out with another family member, call your support person and vent (and be sure to return the favor the next time she’s the one with a gripe to air).
• Be good to yourself. A mom who takes care of herself can take better care of her family. So make sure you’re getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating right. Treat yourself to a bubble bath or make a date night with your partner (there’s nothing like a little romance to recharge your batteries).