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Life’s simple reminders

images-54Sometimes in the hectic pace of life, we need some reminders.

Nothing Is Permanent.

This is a fact that should encourage you to revel in the joy your life brings, and minimize your frustration when you encounter circumstances you don’t like. There is something in your life right now that is not permanent. If it is something you love, in what way can you embrace and enjoy it more? If it’s something you dread, just hold on a little longer. This too shall pass.

You are either Living on Purpose or Living by Accident.
Too many people wander through life haphazardly – latching on to people, jobs, and things just because they crossed their path. Then they wake up one day wondering, “How on earth did I get here?” That is called “living by accident.” In order to create a fulfilling life, you have to be purposeful in your decisions.
Don’t make your decisions without reflecting on how your decision will impact you long-term. Pursue the things that empower you to express your values and talents. Choose to be around people you feel good being around – inspiring, supportive people who are moving in the same direction as you. Know your purpose, and live in it every day in your work, relationships, health, finances, and spiritual life.

Fear Does Not Necessarily Mean ‘Stop’.
Fear is as powerful as you allow it to be. Most of us feel fear and interpret that feeling as a warning to stop moving forward. In truth, we should interpret most fear as a natural emotion that pops up every time we venture to do something outside of our comfort zone. When you feel fear, keep moving. It’ll stretch you beyond your comfort zone and closer to your goals

Less is More.
More than ever, our culture is fixated on proving your worth through your money and material possessions. Entire televisions shows are dedicated to showing you all the stuff other people have. After a while, it can be pretty challenging not to compare your “stuff” to everyone else’s.
True self-empowerment comes from knowing that nothing material will ever prove your worth. Your worth comes from who you are and the impact you make in the lives of others. Don’t worry about impressing everyone else. Instead, focus on impressing God by living the purpose for which He created you: Serving and blessing others in a way that only you can.

The Power to Change Your Life is in the Choices You Make.
Better choices create better circumstances. It’s not what happens to you that most impacts your life. It is how you respond. Your choices create your future. What kind of future are you creating with the choices you are making today?
You can choose to enjoy your life or to be miserable. You can choose to be flexible or keep hitting a brick wall at work or in a relationship. You can choose to pursue your dreams or keep making excuses for why you can’t achieve them.
The choice is ours.

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For better or worse, kids change relationships

images-53I mean, for better, of course, but still, in the sleep-deprived state you go through with the arrival your child, it may just do you some good to keep in mind that having a newborn can also drastically affect your relationship with your partner in a few ways such as…

You will become a team always in action.

The tag-team approach begins with a baby’s cry, the one that pierces the night and shatters any sleep you were envisioning ahead of you. Team work starts with you passing a diaper and wipes to your partner, then he kicks into high or low gear, changes baby, swaddles the baby and hand her off to you for feeding, and the sessions ends approximately 45 minutes later when you place baby back to bed slowly in hopes of crawling back in your own bed.

You will bond in episodes.
With a new born it is almost difficult to have special time with your partner for hours. So when a few seconds arise take them whole heartedly because you never know what the next minute with bring with it. Baby might decide to take all your attention and energy. When she lies down to sleep, catch up with your loved one, talk while changing diapers or when mum is nursing the baby.

You become contestants of “Survivor: Newborn Edition” in your mind.
While you may think that your relationship will become stretched out in some shapeless form, it may also surprise you to find that you and your partner will bond together in the toughest reality show – your life. Surviving life with a newborn is one of the hardest work you will ever do and in a weird way, it bonds you together when you can commiserate over the sleepless nights, poopy diaper explosions, and midnight feedings.

You will delight when the other one gets pooped on.

The bodily functions that may have once revolted you will now become a source of merriment when your innocent, beautiful little baby deposits an entire feeding-full of poop onto your partner with no warning whatsoever. Especially, when you try to warn your partner that they really need to put the clean diaper underneath the dirty one so that the baby doesn’t pee on the bed. Just in case he doesn’t listen, what do you say? Told you so, honey.

You will wonder how he can ever look at you normally again.
I mean, honestly, after what your body went through and continue to go through in the postpartum phase, It’s normal to have a hard time believing that your partner doesn’t look at you like some kind of freak show. It could probably be the folding stomach that can cover your baby like a kangaroo, so your body confidence is not 100% . But the most amazing thing is Mums bounce back and the romance kick back in. Let’s just keep telling ourselves that he will be in awe of your body, not repulsed by it, OK?

Man + baby = A sight to behold.
There’s just something incredibly irresistible about a man and a baby, isn’t there? And if you don’t believe it, have your man accompany you to the supermarket and then stand approximately ten feet behind him holding your baby and watch the old ladies ogle. Luckily, you’re the one that gets to go home with both of them.

You will hate him for being a man.
It’s the sad and sorry truth, but it is almost guaranteed that in the first few weeks, months, and perhaps even years following your child’s birth, you will despise your husband, partner, or boyfriend simply for the fact that he was not the one to give birth. He will never, ever be able to understand what you have gone through and as much as you’d like to force him to undergo the morning sickness, the contraction pain, or the horror that is peeing after birth even for one minute, he won’t get it. So your relationship comes to the point of reconciling the fact that you are sorely flying solo on the fact that you have crossed a threshold he just can’t follow. Hopefully he respects you more for it and hopefully you forgive him for it, but either way, there’s no going back.

You are forever intertwined.
Stronger than the bonds of relationships are the bonds of parenthood. After your first meet the little being who took your breaths away, there is a deeper awareness of what it means to truly be united as a couple. No matter what happens between you, you are always parents together.

Who doesn’t want a happy family?

images-52Be conscious of how you are living and raising your children. Happy families do things a little differently. They are happier because they live intentionally and practice positive habits that instill lifelong values into their children. It doesn’t mean everything is perfect, but their habits make the difference and the good outweighs the bad. Of course, not every family can be happy all the time, but with a few little hints to help you along the way you CAN be most of the time.

Here are few tips that you can use to create a happy family too starting today!

Have family traditions.
The word busy seems to be the new most overused word these days. Everyone is so busy with tasks and activities that families are lucky to spend a few hours per week together. So, now more than ever, it’s important to set aside a time for the whole family just to be together doing things consistently every week, every month, and on holidays to create life long memories and family traditions. For example, it can be as easy and simple as family breakfast on Sunday mornings, movie night on Friday nights, an outdoor hike on the weekend, visiting family out of town once a month….. and the list goes on.

Happy families are giving.
As the song goes, “We all need somebody to lean on“. There’s nothing better than giving back to those in need. You may have been in need at some time, and someone has helped you. In the same respect, you never know when you might be in need so it’s good to store up some of that instant positive karma. It’s important to give often and allow your children to personally give as well. Giving back as a family only amplifies the positive gesture. It unites the family while also teaching children about doing good deeds for others and sharing. There are so many different things you can do too – like: Participate in a walk/jog/run that benefits a special charity or a group affected by a certain disease or disability. Give away things around the house that you no longer need or use. Donating clothes that are too small or not worn.

Practice peace, kindness, and compassion.
Yes it’s true. Siblings argue sometimes, and that’s about as normal as it gets. However, huge explosions can be prevented when you practice peace internally. Intentionally use kindness and compassion in situations that would normally create anger or upset. Declare and make a family rule that only positive, kind words are allowed to be spoken to each other. When feelings of anger arise, teach your children how to take deep belly breaths to diffuse the negative emotion. The best way to teach these habits are to practice them yourself.

A higher being
Consistently teaching your children about life and our Creator will set them up for so much success and happiness in their life. No doubt there is a driving force in this Universe that creates and flows through everything. Whatever you personally believe is up to you. It’s important to teach that belief to your child. Even if later down the road they decide to believe something different. Ultimately it is up to all of us as individuals on how we connect with the divine. Teaching our children that is exists an that we can communicate with that power is what creates well being in a person. Well being creates a happier and healthier family and life. To do this effectively you can can simply personally practice your religion or spiritual beliefs daily and lead by example.

Worry less.
So many families tend to miss out on the simple joys of life, because they just have “too many” other things they decide to worry about. Happy families don’t stress and strain, they plan and act. When a less than desirable situation arises they deal with it quickly and calmly. They don’t let little things turn into big things and they feel gratitude for the beauty and love in their life. Happy families might still be “busy” with school, work, hobbies and extra activities, but they make the most of life because they created it. They diffuse problems quickly. When a big problem arises, they effectively handle it and communicate their emotions. They may share concerns in a more peaceful way to help the whole family co-exist more easily.

“I sustain myself with the love of family.” – Maya Angelou