Address Stress. If you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed, lighten the load and address the source of the stress before you do anything else. Whether it’s work, a personal conflict, too many things on your to-do list, or too many demands on your time from family or friends, you need to pinpoint the reason and take action. With the help of a friend, coach or counselor who can give you perspective and feedback, let some things go or find ways to delegate. Very few things in life are worth the physical and emotional toll of chronic stress.
Remember What Fun Is. Fun is underrated and it is an essential element of a strong mojo. Right now think about the times in your life when you really had fun. Go over the events in your head and mentally re-live these fun and happy times. Think of some of these activities that you might want to enjoy again. Then pick a couple and go do them!
Get Physical. Hopefully some of the fun activities you like are physical activities. Without putting the pressure on yourself to start an exercise routine think of some ways you can get physical and really enjoy it. Play tennis or basketball. Go dancing with a group of crazy friends. Drive to the mountains and take a hike. Get up from your chair and skip around the room or do some jumping jacks. Just get moving and enjoy it.
Treat yourself to a fun new outfit. For a while after having a baby, you may struggled to figure out how to dress yourself again and be stylish with the new requirements surrounding your new lifestyle as a mama. A lot of your wardrobe changes to become more practical, but treating yourself to a fun, non-mom-centric outfit every now and again can help you feel like “you”
Change the subject. Talking about your child non-stop is an easy trap to fall into, and while it is good to surround yourself with friends and family that you can share with and get encouragement from, you should make a conscious effort to change the subject every now and then. Not only will it be a nice change of pace for those around you, but it will force you to reconnect with other important things in your life.
Take An Electronic Sabbatical. It’s so easy to plop in front of the television or computer when you are feeling low. Once you are in that chair, it is so hard to get back up. For a few days at least, turn off the tv and computer so that you are forced to do something. Have a conversation with your spouse or children. Clear clutter or organize something. Go buy some flowers and arrange them. Read something inspirational or motivating. Do something, anything, that is positive, productive and joyful. No more sitting and zoning out.
Be Fabulous. When you are in a crowd of people, look around you. Most people are not model perfect. In fact, most people have many physical imperfections. Even so-called perfect people tend to focus on their flaws. So forget about comparisons, and make the very best of what you have. Be fabulous! Take care of yourself. Get a great hairdo, put on some make-up, wear clothes that make you feel happy and attractive. Highlight the beauty inside of you by reflecting self confidence on the outside.
Hang Out With The Best. During this time that you are getting your groove back, spend time with people whose mojo cup is full. Be with people who motivate you, uplift you, want the best for you, and who are just fun to be around. If there are people in your life who drain you or make you uncomfortable, this is the time to put them on hold until you reclaim your mojo. Don’t isolate yourself. Go out with fun people and have some fun.
Do Something Adventurous. Shake your life up a bit. Do something that is totally out of character or unexpected. Book a trip to an interesting, exciting destination. Go whitewater rafting. Tell someone you care about how you really feel. Be spontaneous. Do something that you’ve always wanted to do.
Love Your Body. When we lose our life’s mojo, we can mistreat our bodies with too much alcohol, fatty/sugary foods, or medications. It’s impossible to get your groove back when your body is sedated with yucky stuff. Treat your body with loving kindness. Eat foods like lots of veggies, fruits and lean meats and less processed, high fat bad-for-you foods.
Train Your Brain. When you are down, your mind likes to take over with negative thoughts, worry, and over-thinking. You have to treat your unruly mind the way you would a puppy or small child. Every time it spirals off into negative thinking, redirect your memories to positive thinking or thoughts,reasons to be grateful or anything pleasant. You will have to do this many times until your mind knows you mean business. Before long, it will be natural for you to redirect negative thinking patterns.